Putting on my power suit…

Standing in my power…finally.

Standing in my power…finally.

Today, as I dressed in this “power suit” for a day of meetings, I was reminded that it is International Women’s Day.
I find it charmingly ironic that is also my father’s 76th birthday.
Not exactly the biggest advocate of feminism, this man who would be the first man I was to meet on this journey here on earth, was a larger-than-life personality, often described as taking up all the space in a room, always full of ideas…and my first symbol of what power was.
And, I was born into this world, stamped by a likeness to my father…and I despised it.
His power and self-assuredness at all costs scared me.
I looked like him.
I talked a lot like him.
I had a flair for dramatic delivery like him.
I was a lover of music like him.
I was strong like him.
I was a people person like him.
I liked being the center of attention like him.
And it all frightened me.
Our longtime family friends will remember how tears would stream down my face, and my bottom lip would pout out in protest, when people would tell me at age 3 that I looked just like my father.
Because there was nothing worse to me than that.
I was scared of him.
I was scared to be like him.
And, while many argued that I got the best parts of him, not a morsel of it did I want.
Recalling my protesting pout now, I realize that it wasn’t just because of a fear of my father, but more so…a fear of myself.
No, I wanted to be like my mother – unassumingly beautiful, soft, smart, ladylike, shy, and demure.
And, alas, I was none of these things.
I am most definitely not demure.
I am strong,
I am brave,
I’m a survivor,
I’m an inspirer,
I’m a creator.
But, demure?
No. That’s not my lot in this life.
That’s best left for someone else to be – a girl, perhaps, who has yet to learn her purpose, or a woman who recognizes – and embraces – that demureness is HER strength…her power.
Now, I see that perhaps my mom has gained some of my strength.
While I never learned her knack for knowing when to speak, or how to be shy and demure, perhaps something even more pivotal happened. Perhaps with my birth, my mom learned how to stand in her own power.
And, I have come to stand proudly in my inherited personal power, strength,  dynamism and “too-muchness”.
I now thank both God – and, my dad – for these traits, and I thank years of experiences for giving me the realization that these are indeed gifts, and not the curses I always deemed them to be.
And, after 38 years of being scared of my own power, I now can wear a power suit, and feel right at home.
Here’s to all women worldwide not only standing in their power, but embracing it…and maybe even stepping into a power suit every now and then.

KNOW. YOUR. WORTH.🏆

Know your worth.

Know your worth.

As some of you know, I do quite a bit of creative consulting and brand strategizing.

It started 3 years ago, and I don’t promote it because it was not something I ever set out to do.
Rather, it was something that found me – smackdab in the middle of doing what I love – and I answered the call.
After all, much to my mother’s chagrin, I am not a business major. I am just a person who built the brand, and as strange as it sounds the brand just happens to be me. People took notice and started asking for help, and started PAYING me for it.
Yep. Not something I planned or had even attempted to manifest.
I am a creative, not a business person, I always thought.
WRONG.
It was a lovely lesson in avoiding labels, because labels can so easily be peeled off and applied elsewhere.
Recently, I had a growing experience when a friend asked if they could be a client and put me on retainer.
Eeek. 🙈
It made me very uncomfortable, so much so that I said I needed to take a day to think about it.
I mean, I love working with brands, charities and personalities, but a close friend who would pay me like they do?
Yikes.
But, then this friend put it beautifully, when addressing my initial hesitation with genuine confusion.
“Why does this make you uncomfortable? You are the best at what you do, and I want to hire the best. If not you, I’ll hire someone else, and why would I hire someone else when I have the budget to pay a friend who would do it better than anyone else?”
That made my decision MUCH easier.
And, it made me really get in touch with my hesitation, and where it stemmed from.
I realized that as confident as I have become as I’ve accrued years and experiences on this here planet and in this here Hollywood town, sometimes I question my value, even when I may not realize that is what I’m doing.
I find this particularly funny because I have no problem whatsoever letting others know what THEIR value is – so much so, that sometimes, I actually think my greatest strength is helping other people understand what their biggest value is on this earth.
Today, as I sat at a brunch meeting at Urth Cafe with a pr maven turned blossoming blogger, who was seeking some guidance and direction, I was reminded of this one area in which I am still growing, and learning…and, then I listened to my words to her as I said them.
“Know your worth. Don’t spend so much time trying to take care of everyone else, that you forget to take time for yourself. Sometimes, we involve ourselves in caring for others, so that we don’t have to be brave and do what we are most scared to do.”
Wow. WOW.
As much as we all have a responsibility to care for one another, our utmost responsibility is to care for ourselves.
And, one way to care for yourself, Dawn McCoy (and you, dear reader) is by recognizing your talents and strengths, making them readily available for other people…and KNOWING YOUR WORTH.
Snap.

Monday In A Nutshell

M O N D A Y. I N. A. N U T S H E L L.

Monday in a nutshell… *poncho by Sloane Rouge

Monday in a nutshell…
*poncho by Sloane Rouge

 

Anybody feeling like Miss Ellie today?

If so, perhaps try perking up your perspective.

Rather than viewing Monday as the end of your weekend, view Monday as the start of what might be the greatest week of your life: a week packed with possibilities, a week open to opportunities, and a week bursting with beginnings.

This week is a gift just for you.

So, unwrap it!

Only you can determine how it’s going to shape up.

And, if you begin today to set out to live a life that you truly love, you will begin to love the weekdays just as much as you love the weekends. Yep. REALLY.

So, how will you begin to design a life you love this week?

Poncho: Sloane Rouge

I won the SuperBowl…of personal permission and freedom

The way I do the SuperBowl...

The way I do the SuperBowl…

As I’ve mentioned before, this year is all about balance for me – finding that elusive balance between work life and social life, and trying to carve out a distinction between the two when it comes to my career of being an extrovert.

Today was an excellent exercise in this.

I had to cancel Super Bowl plans for two different parties today to make sure that I could meet a deadline and finish some open projects before a busy week ahead.

I thought that I should just stay home and be terribly responsible, but my good friend Amy and I had made plans to walk and talk this morning. So, I decided to add some balance to my day, and honor that commitment.

We ended up going on a walk through her neighborhood of Larchmont/Hancock Park, and then, came home where she made a delicious farmers market-fresh lunch of veggie burger with fresh avocado toast and market greens with homemade dressing.

One of the most challenging parts of growing up is learning when to say yes, when to say no, and not regretting either answer.

As I headed home to write this afternoon, with a few taunting texts about missing the big game peppered in there, I realized that I was already a touchdown ahead because I had honored what I needed my Sunday to be for me. I may not have won a ring this Super Bowl Sunday, but I have won something much greater: personal permission and freedom. 🙌🏻🏉🏆

Puppies and porridge…and not taking anything personally

Puppies and Porridge

Puppies and Porridge

Porridge and puppies for breakfast – with a side of The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz before barre class this morning.

I read this book back in 2009, on my dear friend Trey Fanjoy’s suggestion, but reading it again now is a whole different experience. I wanted to revisit it because I especially needed a little reminder of that 2nd agreement:

Don’t take anything personally. Oy vey.
What are the 4 agreements? These:
1) Be impeccable with your word.
2) Don’t take anything personally.
3) Don’t make assumptions.
4) Always do your best.
Do you try to live your life this way? Something to think about before Saturday sweeps us away into the weekend.

When Inspiration Hits: #CupcakesAndCreativity

Just my favorite kind of Friday.

Cupcakes and creativity. Let's hashtag that, shall we? #CupcakesAndCreativity

Cupcakes and creativity. Let’s hashtag that, shall we? #CupcakesAndCreativity

Any writers out there?

Know that feeling when you’re going along, and – all of a sudden – WHAM!! – inspiration hits?

Today, I had a voiceover session, went to a movie matinee of Joy, and then came home and went on a walk with the pup.

I had 3 mini cupcakes sitting patiently on my kitchen bar, and on the walk, a rhyming children’s story unfolded about the said cupcakes.

Came home, where I sat for the past 2 hours, scribbling away in baby blue pen until the story was out on paper, and finally on my laptop and then printed.

I swear…creative inspiration is the closest feeling to falling in love that there is out there.

If you’re searching for a little of it yourself, may it strike you smitten soon. 💗🙌

Happy weekend, inspired ones!

xoxo,
Dawn

Dawnspiration: Monday got ya down?

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Man, isn’t this the picture of Monday in a nutshell?

Reluctantly shifting back into action, tugging on our leashes, biting the proverbial hand that feeds us?

I met this little guy, Skates, on my walk today in Hollywood, and felt that his adorable resistance could be a message for us all, today. See, we all know that life is a gift, but we often forget that making a living is also a gift. You might not like your “leash,” – many people don’t 100% of the time – but I bet you like the life it affords you to have. Until we all are granted trust funds from God, and I don’t foresee that happening in the near future, it looks like we’re all gonna have to make peace with that “work” leash, and learn to loosen our bite on it a bit. Speaking of trust funds, don’t waste time being jealous of the trust fund kids – in my experience, they’re often just as lost in finding their direction as the rest of us, if not more.

And, sure, if you are struggling every day, you might want to look for another profession, but before you start looking for a job responsible for feeding you and your family, I would recommend finding an outlet that feeds your soul. Something to warm up to, if the work day leaves you feeling a bit cold.

So, start today.

Do something today that makes you feel good.

Create.

Give back.

Entertain.

Be entertained.

And, happy Monday!

Don’t you know?

Today signifies a week full of possibilities in front of you.

Friday Friendspiration: Rosy Garcia

Today, I’m kicking off a new post series: ‪#‎FridayFriendspiration‬!

Our first‪ #‎Friendspirer‬? See, what I’m doin’ there? My friend, & mentee, Rosy Garcia.

Friday Friendspiration: Rosy Garcia - mentoring, being a boss, cutting loose, having passion, and fair trade coffee.

Friday Friendspiration: Rosy Garcia – mentoring, being a boss, cutting loose, having passion, and fair trade coffee.

Since it’s‪#‎NationalMentoringMonth‬, who better than someone who has benefitted from mentoring, who is now a mentor?

Some of you have met my friend, Rosy, & many of you have seen her before in some of my social media posts or here on BeautyFrosting. I met Rosy at a Step Up Womens Network event 3 years ago, but few people know that she’s actually the reason I joined Step Up, and became a Luminary member…and, we have had many adventures since!

A UC Berkeley senior, majoring in Peace and Conflict Studies (!!!), Rosy is also a Step Up alum, & while I wasn’t her mentor in high school, I am honored to be both her friend, and an “adult mentor” to her now. So, when she called me this week, and said she needed some life advice, I couldn’t wait to catch up.

We headed to Pizzeria Mozza today, and did just that. I am so proud of the woman she is, and am so ecstatic and proud that she will be graduating from UC Berkeley this May, where I will be there cheering on from the audience. Let’s hope she doesn’t get too embarrassed. 🙈

Fun fact? Her thesis is all about Guatemala Coffee Cooperatives, and identifying how fair trade is flawed, when it comes to the coffee industry.

Her goal? To bring that knowledge to her family’s native country of Guatemala, and explain this to them.

With these, self-imposed goals, Rosy's future is…well…rosy!

With these, self-imposed goals, Rosy’s future is…well…rosy!

Rosy’s Top 5 Friendspiration Revelations:
1) If you’re not passionate about it, there’s no point. If there are no butterflies in your stomach, then it’s not real. ACTION TAKEN: Rosy changed her career path, when she realized this.
2) Cut loose a little bit more. I’ve really never done that because I had so much responsibility at home. I’ve learned to have fun.
3) What scares me most is going into an industry and not being able to get out.
4) Sometimes, you have to be clear that you’re the boss. (I am learning this, Rosy, I am learning.)
5) I had to get the guest speaker for our big Latino business association, and what he said has really stuck with me: “You can have long-term goals & long-term impacts that you want to make, but you can’t forget about making a small-time impact, where you are today.”
 Thank you, Rosy!
Follow Rosy on social media HERE.

 

xoxo,
Dawn

Dawnspiration: To Move Forward, You Must Look Back

L O O K. B A C K.

Dawnspiration: To move forward, you must look back.

Dawnspiration: To move forward, you must look back.

Oh, resolutions.

The most popular resolution besides weight loss?

Decluttering our lives.

But, for many of us, we’ve set this resolution before, only to see it failed to be resolved come next year’s end. Here’s the thing. Your environment reflects what’s going on inside you. Let me say that again.

YOUR ENVIRONMENT REFLECTS WHAT’S GOING ON INSIDE OF YOU.

If you have a cluttered home, chances are that you’ve got a cluttered heart, cluttered head, or both. I’m happy to report that there’s a solution that has been proven to work time and time again, for everyone.

To move forward and step into our best future, we have to look into our past. We have to take an inventory of what is either haunting us or holding us back. We have to see the behavior we continue to repeat that leads us to getting the same undesirable results. And, we have to see why we’re “stuck” there, so we can get unstuck.

I have encountered quite a few people in life who have no problem detoxing their bodies for days, but find detoxing their souls a little more daunting. I have had these same people tell me that they don’t believe in therapy or self-help or soul-searching or have tried it before and “it’s not for them.”

Well, you don’t have to believe in it, you just have to DO it.

And, I highly recommend getting a guide to help you along with this decluttering – whether it be a therapist, minister, yoga teacher, spiritual leader, reiki master, 12-step group, self-help book or trusted friend. Because, if we go alone on this intense-yet-rewarding journey of finding ourselves, sometimes all we find ourselves is lost.

So, find a partner to guide you on this soul-decluttering journey and take the first step to a world of infinite possibilities. By clearing out the clutter – and the wounds, heartaches and problems – of the past, you get much more comfortable with your present, and can make room for a beautiful future.

Your 2016 Mantra: Take Steps & Trust Yourself

Your 2016 Mantra: Take Steps & Trust Yourself

Your 2016 Mantra: Take Steps & Trust Yourself

I have one mantra for you to carry with you this year:

“In 2016, I will take the necessary steps to make my dreams come true, and I will trust that they will.” 🌟

Skeptical? I’m living proof of that.

4 years ago at this time, I broke up with my long-term boyfriend of 7 years and was a failed country singer. I found myself starting off 2012 lost, heartbroken, and unsure of what to do with my life.

During a trip home to Dallas over the holidays – and some major discussion with one of my lifelong best friends who told me that I was always good at inspiring women and helping them discover their inner and outer beauty – I decided to start a blog. It was the ONE thing I could do at that moment within the confines of my income and schedule to give myself some purpose and direction, while sharing a little of my light with the world.

Only thing was I’d never even read a blog.

And, I had a job, which included driving to Malibu for an hour each way every day. But, you know what? I made time for it. I wrote and looked for inspiration at lunch and at night. Even over breakfast! I established all my social media outlets. I reached out to brands, companies and public relations agencies I wanted to work with.

Two months later, on March 12th, 2012, I launched my blog, BeautyFrosting, and my life has never been the same. In 2013, I found myself losing my day job, and I’ve never had one since. I became a full-time creative, which has been my goal since originally moving to Los Angeles in 2000. That was also the year, I started officially hosting, and appeared on Home & Family, as well as did voiceovers for Target and UPS.

The next year – 2014 – I appeared again on Home & Family, as well as Access Hollywood and Extra, and became the voice of Marshalls. And, this past year, I became the voice of Hampton Inn and Pandora, had a small role in the film Merry Exes, worked with numerous non-profits as a host, ambassador & spokesperson, launched the positive social media movement Dear 15 Me and appeared on The Real


So, out of nothing but brokenness, I have built a whole new life – a life that gives back, and a life I LOVE!

And, you can, too.

You just need to believe it, & start by taking small steps…because those small steps can yield BIG results. 


Trust me.
Trust it.
Trust yourself.

xoxo,

Dawn