Love, Patience & Understanding

This past October, I was invited to experience one of the greatest showings of love I’ve ever witnessed.
It was a moment alive with honesty, humor, tears, laughter, enthusiasm, comfort, family, friends and home. And dancing. Lots of dancing.
I count it as one of the single most magical experiences of my life.
It was the wedding of my dear friends, Michael and Gabe.

Gay, straight, what have you. Literally, the best vows I've ever been invited to witness. My favorite quote was from Michael in his vows to Gabe: "I used to look forward to leaving my house every day. Now, with you, I can't wait to come home." Home is where the heart is.

Yes, a “gay wedding”. But do we really need to call it that?
A wedding is simply a celebration of marriage. So while it may have been gay in the sense that it was indeed a very happy affair, why must we refer to it as that? We don’t call other weddings “straight weddings”, do we?
So why must we be voting on this basic human right at this point in our history?

Listen, I truly cling to the belief that everyone is entitled to their own politics and religion.
I really do. I’m a big proponent of american politics like that.
I truly embrace those American values.
I do.

But until you’ve witnessed two of the best men you know saying “I Do” and joining into a forever-partnership, you might want to withhold your unkind words.
These vows do nothing to you.
They don’t break any bond.
They don’t sever the relationship that marriage represents.
They don’t “teach a lesson” about the modern degradation of values.
And they don’t have an impact on you or this country.
They’re just 2 people getting married and starting their own family.
Yep, it’s that simple.

How would you feel if you weren’t legally able to marry the love of your life?
Maybe this doesn’t look like your love…but it’s their love and it’s love, nonetheless.
And, be honest here, folks. How many of you have been questioned at some point for your taste in love?
I sure have. We all have. It’s not a good feeling. And unless your love is being questioned because you’re truly marrying a bad person, it’s not helpful either.

I know a lot of people who oppose same-sex marriage and they are good people. Smart people. Kind people. So now I speak to them and to those of you on the fence.

Think with your head.
But feel…and empathize…with your heart.
And let it go.
It’s not YOUR fight.
It is their lives.
As someone once told me, when I was 16 and espousing my belief about no sex before marriage (it didn’t last), “You don’t ‘believe in it? It’s happening. It’s not a matter of belief.”
Believe what you want but it’s going on. It’s happening, people.

Any union of two loving souls connecting makes me believe in love, have faith in humanity and – as a single gal -hopefully gives me a little hope.
But above all that, it gives me patience with people and love. Because right now, that’s what my friends are having to do, too.
Here’s to hoping that they don’t have to be patient much longer.


High-Low 12: Busy

Helllloooooo everyone!
The next month is a busy one for me! I’m starting my columns, “Primping with” and “Dawn’s Delights” as guest  blogger on Giuliana Rancic’s site, FabFitFun, going to a slew of weddings, showers & bachelorette parties, hosting 2 showers, organizing my team for AIDS Walk LA and trying to get as many daily blog posts out to you guys. Whew.

I will do my darndest!

As for now, here is my High-Low this week.


1) The wedding of my friends, Meghan & Jim, in Simi Valley last night.

It was truly a picture out of A MidSummer Night’s Dream.

They are such a beautiful couple and I was so happy to be witness to their magic!

And the cake, from Cake Sensations in Pasadena, was one of my favorite wedding cakes of all time. Deeeeeelish!!!!


I swear! Wedding cake is my favorite food!!!


Plus, all of my friends from my days working with Barbra Streisand were there so it was like a super fun reunion – replete with wine & dancing. I was a dancing machine.

Barbra brought us together: The Barwood girls

At the end of the night, as Eddie Vedder crooned “Stay with me…”, I organized an impromptu dance circle around the happy couple. It was a moment that everyone there will always remember.

A circle of love for the happy couple

A circle of love for the happy couple



2) I’m organizing a team for AIDS Walk LA on Sunday, October 14th. Wanna be on my team and walk with us? Click here & join us! It’s totally FREE to be a member!

If you’d like to donate, all I’m asking is for a donation of $1. That’s all. If you can afford more, great! But $1 is all it will take to make me grin with glee. I figure if I can get 1000 people I know to donate $1, I can raise $1000 for the cause! Click here to donate to our team for AIDS Walk LA! Please be a part of AIDS Walk LA Team BeautyFrosting!!! And, remember, nothing is more beautiful than generosity!


3) My new Stroganoff Casserole Recipe


I took it over to Jay, Hope, Baby Isla & the grandmas and they said it was delicious!



 Again, not many lows this week but there was something that rubbed me a little wrong. So I guess that was my low!
The low of the week was a doozy.
It really got me a little down. About friends, about politics, about people.
I wrote a positive remark about something politically. There was not a tinge of hate or negativity in it. And it’s not something that is particularly partisan or anything.
In fact, it was simple positive energy. Celebration, if you will.
An old acquaintance from high school replied to it in a negative, rather defensive way explaining that I didn’t “understand” things.
Then my friends started trying to defend me and she eventually removed her post.
It all made me pretty disappointed.
Here’s the thing.
I love politics. I love the speeches and debates and difference in opinions.
I love sharing information so that we might learn from each other’s differences.
After all, that’s what America is about.
But I don’t like negative politics and/or campaigning.
It doesn’t work. It’s that simple. It’s been proven in studies time and time again.
All that negative energy, being sent out to our leaders and into the world, can’t do anything but harm us.
Hurt us.
Break us.
I will not refrain from posting positive messages about government or future government officials.
I don’t write hateful comments on anyone else’s words of praise.
So please don’t write them on mine.
I always like to imagine if a child was reading what I said. Would he/she get a positive message about politics?
Would he see the disdain and negativity and get a bad taste in his mouth?
Nothing is worse than that.
No one is going to change anyone’s mind with negative remarks about the beliefs we hold dear.
Call me Pollyanna — and plenty have — but we must be positive and proactive and VOTE to have our voice heard.
Not write negative, demeaning remarks on each other’s Facebook pages.
It just defeats us as a whole.
BF Asks: What was your High-Low this week?

Saturday Social Hour: Hometown Dallas Visit, Part 2

Last week, I detailed some of the highlights from visiting my family & friends in Dallas. Here’s what happened next on my sweet, sweet trip home.

A visit with Linda Nunez – the iconic Trish McEvoy makeup artist at Nordstrom Northpark:

BF and, iconic Trish McEvoy artist, Linda Nunez

I worked with Linda when I was a Trish McEvoy makeup artist, myself, at Neiman Marcus Northpark at the ripe age of 19! There’s a whole story about that On this visit, I was lucky enough to get a complete refresher course from Linda and I found that many of the things I learned while being a Trish customer and, later, employee are tools I still use to this day. There’ll be more on my visit and what goodies I left with later.

Another reason for my visit was that it was one of my favorite little girls, Molly Tate’s, 1st Birthday Party!

Molly Tate's 1st birthday party

Seeing some of my best, old friends from college and enjoying that Texas wayward wind:

Celebrating the beautiful Molly Tate with my beautiful friends in Dallas

The Cake!! Check out Molly’s initials – MTV – so cute!!

The coolest initials ever: Molly's "MTV" Cake from Stein's Bakery

Perfect for a baby's birthday party - Baby roses in baby bud vases

Mommy presenting Molly's first cake to her

Molly's first taste of cake!

 Jenny & Jon’s Wedding

The newlyweds!

The hand on the back during their first dance is symbolic of the support they are to one another...

BF & The beautiful Bride

If you’d like to see more pretty, personal touches from this sweet, summer, garden wedding, click here to see my High-Low last week!

And, my last stop in Dallas? Why, Mi Cocina, again, for the 7th night!

I even strayed from my normal margarita or mambo taxi and tried a new drink:

Anybody know what this delightful concoction at Mi Cocina is called, anyway?

What a sweet weekend to wrap up a sweet trip home!
And to all of my friends and family, thank you for making it a trip home I will never forget!


BF Asks: Where’s your hometown?

High-Low 1

I have a tradition that I love and I want to share it with you, my BeautyFrosting readers:


A few years ago, I began playing this “game” with my ex-boyfriend, with my friends and their kiddos. It’s such a fun and effortless way to spark conversation at the dinner table or at the end of a long day.

So, here we go. The commencement of BeautyFrosting’s High-Low. I’d love to hear your HighLows, as well. So send ‘em on!

Here are my HIGHS this week:

Jenny & Jon’s Wedding  - What’s not to love about a Garden Wedding? One of my best friends from high school, Jenny, married one of our classmates, Jon, sixteen years after our graduation. They had reconnected 2 years ago and have been an inseparable duo ever since.

This photo of the bride as a little girl dressed all in white was a sweet personal touch in this gorgeous garden wedding

The beautiful bride and her father

When Jenny and Jon were pronounced man and wife, we turned around these handcrafted fans to say "Yay!" to the happy couple

A Blur of Bliss. I love the blurry, nostalgic nature of this moment as they walk together arm-in-arm back down the aisle for the first time as a married couple

The Wedding cake: The groom's talented mother baked this delicious 3 layer confection. 2 layers of white cake with buttercream frosting with chocolate buttercream filling and 1 layer of red velvet cake with cream cheese filling and buttercream frosting)

She could hardly wait for the groom's cake and got a few tastes with the best cake utensil: her finger.

The Groom's Cake? A giant brownie with chocolate buttercream frosting made by the groom's mother, Suzanne

BF & the Bride
Sparklers as the bride and groom drove away

Molly Tate’s 1st Birthday Party:

Molly Tate's 1st birthday party

Molly Tate enjoying her first Stein's Bakery cake

Molly Tate & her little friend at her birthday party

Tete a Tete with Molly Tate

Celebrating the beautiful Molly Tate with my beautiful friends in Dallas


Nightswimming in Mom's pool in Dallas (listening to music as I swim and unwind before my trip back to LA)

Returning to Los Angeles to 70 degree weather:

Returning to LA: 70 degrees in May!

LOWS (I’ll spare you the pictures of these this week)

Leaving my friends and family in Dallas


About 40 chigger bites I procured in Dallas. They love me there. Let me tell you, it’s a one-way love affair!

BF Asks: What were your High-Lows this week?

Thirsty Thursday: BeautyFrosting’s Ginger Tea Punch

BeautyFrosting's Ginger Tea Punch

If you want a punch that’s perfect for all ages, women AND men and isn’t overly-candy-sweet, this is your go-to punch. I love the stuff! And I always end up giving the recipe to my guests.
I made this last batch last weekend at my good neighbor-friends’ “Reveal the Baby Sex” party. It was a hit! And the party was a ball! But more of that on Saturday Social Hour!

Here’s the tasty tea punch recipe that will be one of your favorites too!
BeautyFrosting’s GINGER TEA PUNCH 
Makes 1 gallon. I usually double for my 2 gallon punchbowl.

3 Tbl. Instant Tea (the “powdered” kind, plain, no sugar, no lemon)
1 ½ cups Granulated Sugar
6 cups warm Water
2 cups diluted Orange Juice
6 ounce can frozen Limeade, defrosted and undiluted
2 liters Ginger Ale (or enough to make 1 gallon)

Combine the instant tea, sugar and water. Stir well to ensure the sugar
is dissolved. Add the orange juice and Limeade. Refrigerate until ready
to serve.

Just before serving, add enough Ginger Ale to make 1 gallon of liquid.

Garnish with orange slices and mint sprigs. Depending on “theme”, I have also garnished with limes and lemons.

Garnish with orange slices - BeautyFrosting's Ginger Tea Punch

Beautiful for a wedding shower, baby shower, ladies lunch, brunch, party or holiday!

As always, if you try it, please take pics and tell me how it worked for you!



BF’s BF: Happy.

I got a voicemail last Friday and it went a little something like this:

“It’s very important you call me. I love you. Bye.”

My best friend, of 23 years, Suzanne was the caller.

OhMyGoodness, OhMyGoodness, OhMyGoodness!
She’s engaged!!!

Gaines popping the question to an unassuming Suz in a field of bluebonnets

I knew it was coming. She met the love of her life almost a year ago and has been blissfully happy.

And that makes me happy.

Suz and I met at the Episcopal School of Dallas when we were in 6th grade.

Suz & Me: ESD Cheerleading days

My mom and Nanny always called us Mutt & Jeff. Some reference to a classic tv show. I don’t know who they are but they called us that because we were polar opposites.

I was a 5’9, brown-haired, brown-eyed, clutzy, makeup-loving, singing social butterfly and entertainer. She was a 5’1 flaxen-haired, petite, blue-eyed, stylish, graceful, spunky fashionista.

I called her Skippy. She called me Evening Shade.

We used to write notes about boys (I’d correct her spelling). We had countless sleepovers (where she helped my fashion-unsavvy self learn about good fashion sense). We were cheerleading tryout partners (I was the base and she was the top, natch). She inspired me to wear wind shorts (note: they didn’t look half as cute on my 5’9 frame as they did on her 5’1 frame). And we shared everything. Oh, and we had spats of course! Good ones! But we always came back to what mattered: being there for each other.

Over the years, we have been there for each other during everything.

As bridesmaids in our friends', Cullen & Allison Dickey's wedding, in Santa Fe

New jobs.  Shows. Moves. Successes. Breakups. Deaths. Family Tragedies. Family Drama. New loves. Ah yes, new loves! More on that later.

She visited me in Nashville and Los Angeles.  We have worked together on shoots. We have sunned in La Jolla.

Just a couple of girls in La Jolla

And we’d always meet up over the holidays in Dallas to exchange our super thought-out bday gifts for each other (we’re 9 days and 1 sign a part – she a Scorpio and I a Sagittarius). My favorite gifts have been from her.

Car dancing to "Everybody Wants You" in Dallas

And now, after an exciting career in New York and Paris, she had found her Texan man.

Back where it all started.

So I called her back. She was elated. Ecstatic. She told me, “Gaines and I were taking photos in our matching western shirts in a field of bluebonnets. He said there was something wrong with his boot. I had no idea. He knelt down and pulled out a ring. I really just thought something was wrong with his boot!” Always the stylist, that Suz.

I screamed. Naturally. Spoke with that amazing man, Gaines. And couldn’t stop grinning.
Then she sent me these pictures. And every time I look at them, I get the biggest, broadest smile.

Because seeing her so happy makes me SOOO happy!
See for yourself. He literally swept her off her feet.

Suz & Gaines - She said YES!!

So today’s BF QOD is dedicated to Gaines and Suz.

I can’t wait to share yet another milestone with my BF.

Love you guys!




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